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Confrontation

This article from Proactive Coaching, written by Tim Driver and included in the Leadership collection, addresses what to do when people refuse to buy in…

This article from Proactive Coaching, written by Tim Driver and included in the Leadership collection, addresses what to do when people refuse to buy in or intentionally sabotage a culture. Using humor and everyday parenting scenarios, it lays out a two-pronged approach: preventing defiance by establishing consistent, positively-stated absolutes, and disarming defiant behavior through choices between the absolute and its consequence.

Introduction

Tim Driver was a former student who became coaching colleague, teaching partner and friend. Tim tragically died at the age of 45 and it was a loss I still feel. He had a gift and a heart for the underdog and the "at risk". His humor, perspective and wisdom influenced everyone he came in contact with.

Last time we chatted, the discussion centered around Define, Model, Shape, Reinforce…and clay snakes. Admittedly it looks great on paper… and when dealing with a majority of the population… it actually works in real life, too. As Yogi Berra once said, "In theory, theory and reality are the same. In reality, they're not."

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